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Perspective and the Holidays

When we attended my grandfather’s 80th birthday party, I was in my early 30s. I had been feelings stressed out and overwhelmed with job, kids, life. When we gathered for a 4-generation photo, he commented to me, “I’ll bet it seems like a day goes on forever for you, doesn’t it?” Feeling the opposite, but knowing it was different for him in that moment, I smiled and said, “Yes, Grandpa, it sure does!”

It gave me a deep sense of how our perspective changes throughout our lives. At the same time, it made me glad I was there to help Grandpa celebrate the event. I cherish the memory of that conversation. Even more, I cherish the moment that he, my father, myself, and my son posed for that photo in the warm summer day at my parents’ home – the place where I grew up.

This holiday season, I encourage you to spend a lot more time with your older relatives than you have in past years. They have the gift of wise perspective, and they can share it with you, without realizing they have.

Mom and Dad are in their 70s, and we spend more time together than in years past, regardless of the 2-hour drive. It’s tough to fit in a visit sometimes, even though a day seems to go on forever.

Comments (2)

  1. Wen

    Very touching, I remember that day too, I was very happy to be there as you where. Thank you for your kind insight and your encouragement. I have told you for some time to “write”, not just this, but write, you are so talented and your words move me, as they do others. I am proud to be your sister.
    Much love as always,
    ~Wendy

  2. Hi Jerry,
    I just love reading your stuff. You have a very eloquent way with words. Simply put ..you are dead on with everyday experiences.
    We took our son Owen , and his boy scout troop to the old folks home at Harbour Manor. We gathered around and sang christmas carols to the residents. To see the smiles on their faces, it makes me want to cry. It made me so aware of where I am in my life. I want to sometimes scream out loud because it seems like “ground hogs day” most days with the same old chores and routine. But given the choice to trade their lives, with mine, I bet they would.
    Makes me have a whole new appreciation for my life.

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